Community Guidelines

A privacy-first peer-support space for burnout recovery and gentle recalibration

1) Peer support only (not professional care)

This is a peer-support community based on lived experience, reflection, and shared tools.
We do not diagnose, prescribe, or provide treatment.
Nothing here is medical, psychiatric, nutritional, legal, or financial advice.

If you need personalised support or you’re unsure about your safety, please contact a qualified professional in your country. If you feel unsafe or at risk, use the pinned:

🚨 Safety & Support Post If You Need Immediate Help

Use this space thoughtfully
Posts, comments, events, and resources reflect personal experiences and opinions, not professional or individual advice. You remain responsible for your own decisions and wellbeing. Treat anything you read here as information to reflect on, not instructions to follow.

2) Adults only (18+)

This community is for adults aged 18 or over.
If you believe a minor has joined, please report it so we can act.

3) Privacy-first by design (you choose your level of visibility)

This community is privacy-first. You can participate in the way that feels safest.

You can post anonymously.
You can edit your username (use a nickname if you prefer).
You never have to share your full story, show your face, or use voice/video.
Keep details general, especially about employers, colleagues, locations, and identifiable events.

Please don’t share:

employer names, real names, or screenshots of emails/messages
identifying details that could put you (or others) at risk

Limits of confidentiality
We work hard to create a private, respectful space and use privacy-first tools. No online platform can guarantee perfect confidentiality. Admins, moderators, and our technical providers may need to access limited information when it is necessary for safety, security, troubleshooting, or legal compliance. Please only share what feels right for you in this context.

4) Confidentiality & respect for others’ privacy

What’s shared here stays here.
Don’t copy, screenshot, or share other people’s posts outside this space.
Don’t repost someone’s story elsewhere (even with “good intentions”).

We can’t guarantee other members’ behaviour, but we will act on reports to protect the community.

Sharing about other people
You are welcome to share your experiences, including work or family situations, but please protect the privacy of others. Do not share full names, exact job titles, company names, or other identifying details about colleagues, employers, friends, or family members. If you include details that could reasonably identify another person, you must have their consent to share that story in this space.

5) Kindness first (and “no fixing” culture)

Speak to others the way you’d want someone to speak to you on a hard day.
Validate before you suggest.
Avoid “you should…” language.

Instead, share from experience:

“What helped me was…”
“In my experience…”
“One option you might explore with a qualified professional is…”

No bullying, shaming, mocking, harassment, or tone-policing.

6) Safety & sensitive content

We want honesty without harm.

Please:

Avoid graphic detail about self-harm, suicide, violence, or abuse.
Use a content warning (CW:) at the top of posts about sensitive topics, e.g. "CW: panic attacks" or "CW: suicidal thoughts (no details)". This helps others choose what they can read.
Don’t share step-by-step “how to” descriptions of harmful behaviour.
If you feel at risk of harming yourself or someone else, this community cannot hold that alone. Use:
🚨 Safety & Support Post If You Need Immediate Help

Course safety gate (important):

If you’re overwhelmed or can’t cope, the corrct route is:

🎧 RECOGNISE → Module 6: The Come Down Phase and
🎧 RECOGNISE → Module 8: The Support Module
(RESET is for steadier days once you’re ready.)

7) No promotions, recruitment, or unsolicited DMs

To keep this space clean and safe:

No selling, self-promotion, or affiliate links in posts or DMs unless explicitly approved.
No recruiting for programmes, webinars, services, or coaching.
No spamming members in private messages.
Direct messages must be consensual, if someone asks you to stop messaging, you must stop immediately.
No using the community to build your own sales funnel.

If you’re unsure whether something is okay, ask a moderator first.

8) What’s welcome here (and what we’ll moderate)

Welcome:

Short check-ins and personal reflections
“I don’t know where to start” posts
Lived-experience tips (“this helped me”)
Gentle resources (books/podcasts/tools) shared as personal experience
Encouragement, solidarity, and “me too” replies
Anonymous posts (always welcome)

We will remove/moderate:

Medical/psychiatric/nutritional instructions (“stop your medication”, “don’t see a doctor”, etc.)
Hate speech, discrimination, harassment, targeted attacks, or illegal activity
Graphic self-harm/suicide detail or instructions
Doxxing or sharing private information (yours or others’)
Employer naming/identifying workplace allegations that create legal/safety risk
Spam, promotions, repeated off-topic posts
Copyrighted/pirated materials (e.g. full paid courses, books, or articles you don't own)

We may hide, edit, or remove posts that break these guidelines. Repeat or severe breaches may lead to removal from the community.

9) If something feels unsafe or off

If you see content that feels:

abusive or shaming
clearly promotional or manipulative
like someone may be in immediate danger

Please:

Use the platform’s Report option on that post/comment, and/or
Tag @Chris W, and/or
Email support@whereimatcommunity.com with a link (screenshots only if necessary)

Reporting isn’t getting someone in trouble, it’s caring for the community.

10) Final reminder

You do not have to show up perfectly here.

Lurking at first is okay.
One-word check-ins are okay.
Anonymous posting is okay.
Taking breaks is okay.

You are welcome exactly where you are at.